THE FIVE BIGGEST MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN FAMILY COURT
It’s been 23 years since my divorce and there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t
recall that gloomy period of time. You know the feeling! What could have
been, what should have been??? Etc. etc.…. I have often speculated about
what my divorce would have been like had I a place to go for the same
information I now provide to others. Certainly a desired result would have
been quicker and far less painful and definitely less expensive!
Notwithstanding, things have worked out well despite my early ignorance. (As discussed in Free Report #1-“Why Men Lose In Family Court”)
Eventually, after a serious revelation with myself I realized my mistakes and
allowed a man to help me.
My focus now is to help men avoid the same mistakes I did. And if they do find
themselves in a position of having made serious mistakes that we will be
discussing they will have a place to come for information and help.
I receive over 150 e-mails per day from men all over the country. One of largest
thrills I have is being contacted by a “First timer”. This is a man that
has just been served with divorce papers or some other initial family law proceeding
and is seeking information and help. He is just beginning his journey.
What is exciting to me is that this man
has no idea just how much I can help him.
Obtaining the right information in the very beginning will dramatically change
his entire life, the lives of his parents, children, friends and everyone else
with whom he is associated now and in the future. Seeing these men make
the right decisions at the right time is extremely gratifying to me. It’s what
motivates me to continue my pursuit of Father’s rights and offering legal
assistance. But for every first timer that contacts me and allows me to help
them there are 1000 men
(myself included) that ignorantly proceed without the right information
at the right time. To these men this article is dedicated. And remember,
the only mistake that can’t be corrected is the mistake you will not admit. It’s
never too late!
Although not included in the list, there is a mistake bigger than those to be
discussed below. It is the mistaken belief that one can simply go to a family
law attorney, pay $3,000 to $5,000 and all your legal problems will be favourably
resolved. This is ABSOLUTELY NOT TRUE!In fact,
This never works and is a
colossal mistake that can doom your legal case forever! Unfortunately for
millions of men there
are no state laws requiring second opinions or confirmation of a legal diagnosis
and/or prognosis. (Read our Free Report #2 "The Truth About Family Court and
In Medicine there are certain check and balance systems that are required to insure a proper diagnosis and
prognosis. (In medical cases involving serious illness second
opinions are required by law in many states) For example, if you (God forbid) were diagnosed with a serious
illness requiring major surgery the first thing you would want to do is get a
second opinion. You would want to be sure of the diagnosis and proposed
treatment. You would want to know your medical options and alternatives. In
short, you would want to confirm what the doctor had told you! There is a check and balance system
that works. Wherefore it would
be very difficult for a medical doctor to perform major surgery when not
necessary or when other effective treatment options were available. In other
words medical checks and balances preclude a doctor from performing major
surgery that were not necessary or, to be honest, just for the money. If only it was that way in law! It certainly
The bottom line here is this: NEVER, NEVER,
NEVER, pay a family law attorney a cent until your case has been thoroughly
evaluated and you know exactly where you stand on all issues and what the court
will order! Remember, attorneys do not make money giving consultations
or by settling matters in their office or by phone. They make money by going to
court regardless of necessity. Unchecked and Imbalanced! Therefore before
you pay money to an attorney, before you make agreements with your Ex, before
you discuss the matter with your friends and family, before you fill out
paperwork yourself, let me completely and thoroughly evaluate your case. Let me
give you your legal diagnosis and prognosis. Let me become your personal
advocate! Don't make the biggest mistake of them all! To learn more about our
Advocate Plans click on the Advocate Plan link at the end of this report.
Finally, your case
(or the case of the person for whom you are concerned) will never be
resolved until you
(they) take the time to learn how the Family Law system works. You must
commit to learning the simple steps you can take now to resolve your present
legal issues and avoid additional issues in the future.
Remember, your failure is
The Five Biggest Mistakes Men make in Family court: 1. Failing to respond: This is the biggest mistake of all!
Men commonly fail to respond to legal actions. They simply don’t do
anything at all. They rationalize that their spouse will likely drop the
action or they will be able to work out an agreement outside of court. The
reality here is that women almost always follow through with divorce. In
California alone, 94% of all divorce filings proceed to final judgment. In New
York, 42% of all divorce judgments are by default.
(Other states report similar statistics) Failing to respond to a
divorce action or other family law legal proceeding will result in a “default
judgment” being entered against you. This means that everything your
spouse has requested in her petition will be granted. The Court can even
make additional orders it deems necessary and proper. If you are served
with papers, always respond!
If, after responding, you are able to obtain an out of Court settlement or your
spouse reconsiders and drops the action, great.
However, always respond! Failing
to do so can, and likely will, result in severe and far reaching consequences
from which you may never recover. The Family Law Court system is a very
unforgiving system. If you fail to respond to any Family Law legal action
in which you are a party, you may lose forever certain rights related to your
case. 2. Incorrect legal advice: Every one has a family member or
friend that has been through a divorce or related family court actions.
Once these well-intentioned individuals learn that you are facing family law
legal problems they are quick to give you advice. Unfortunately, the
information they dispense is often incorrect, incomplete and/or outdated.
(In some instances Illegal)
Family laws and legal guidelines used by the Court change frequently.
Wherefore, there is no substitute for accurate legal information that
specifically pertains to your case. Acting on bad legal advice can be
worse than not doing anything. Take the time to learn the facts.
You can be sure your soon to be Ex has or will!
3. Signs bad settlement agreement: Men that have failed to
obtain the proper information and assistance often sign a bad settlement
agreement called a Stipulated Judgment or Marital Settlement Agreement.
Remember that the Court doesn’t care what agreements two sides of a legal action
make. Their only concern is that both parties are in agreement. The
rule of thumb here is; don’t sign an agreement if it’s not what you want.
Changing a final divorce agreement and/or stipulated order on any family law
issue is very difficult and in some cases impossible. 4. Doesn’t perform agreements: The message here is
simple. Don’t sign an agreement you don’t like. If, after having
been properly advised, you like the agreement being offered, sign it! But, if
you are not comfortable with the offer of settlement, don’t sign it! More
importantly, don’t sign anything that you do not intend to perform. The
court has little patience with those who don’t perform orders.
Non-compliance with court orders can severely prejudice your case and can even
result in contempt of court charges in which jail time can be imposed. 5. Becomes frustrated, gives up: It’s no secret that the
Family Court continues to be biased in favor of women. Although this bias
has subsided in recent years due to new laws and guidelines, it still exists.
Admittedly there is nothing more frustrating than watching a Judge or mediator
allow a woman to ramble on and on about her position and yet not give the man
even a moment to respond in support of his position. Despite the prevalent
bias men should never get so frustrated that they lose their composure.
Patience is a great virtue in Family Court. Don’t forget that a family law
case stays open until you die or there are no longer any issues to be resolved.
Therefore, your involvement in the case is not limited to just the present court
date or most recent filing. You may face court again in the future.
Don’t get discouraged and never just give up!
Now let me ask you! Why have you come to this site? Are you looking for answers
to your family law problems? Are you the Parent, Grandparent, girlfriend, sister
or new wife of a man having problems in family court? Are you confused? Lost?
Frustrated? Angry? Are you a “first timer” just starting a case? Have you been
to court several times and not been successful? Attorney not doing the job? What
ever your reason for coming to this site
let me help you! Let me guide
you and teach you how to be successful. Let me answer your legal questions.
Let me be your advocate!
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First: While I was in law school I began writing a guide for men that would teach them
how the family law system works. While I was writing the guide I read every book
I could on family law issues. I interviewed State Congressmen, Senators, Judges,
District Attorney's and numerous private attorneys. I reviewed client case files
and spent hundreds of hours on the Internet researching family law related web
sites. Additionally, for the past 12 years I have received over a 150 e-mail's
and/or telephone calls per day from individuals all over the United States who
are seeking information about their particular family law problems. I've heard
After considerable research I wrote a series of nine booklets on every major
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won't need to spend time at law libraries or bookstores. You won't need to spend
countless hours on the Internet reviewing information that is often confusing
and difficult to understand. I have done this work for you! Also, the
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you can take to either avoid or resolve Family Law problems and purchase the
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Second: In the Free reports I shared with you
my own personal failure in Family court 16 years ago. I shared with you that it
wasn’t until I met another man, a father’s right advocate and attorney that was
willing to help me that I overcame a very difficult legal case. As I look back,
the single greatest factor that changed my case was that I found someone to
teach me and guide me. Someone I could contact anytime to discuss my case, my
questions, fears, feelings. Someone that would be direct and honest with me.
Someone that would tell me the truth about every aspect of my case! A
now I am very excited to be able to offer you the same. It’s called “The
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I realize it
may difficult for you to fully understand at this moment just how significant
The Advocate Plans are and just how much I can help you if you will allow me
to do so.
What I am asking you to do is: Let me help you with your
case! Let me become your advocate! Let me be the person you come to when you
have questions and need answers now! Let me evaluate every aspect of your case
HONESTLY and TRUTHFULLY! Learn where you stand today! Again, whether you
are just starting a case or have been to court a number of times, whether you
are or were married or never married but have children let me help you maximize
your legal options.
Family Law problems affect not only you but your new wife, parents,
grandparents, friends and most significantly your children! Don't wait any
longer! Don't wait until it's too late! Make a commitment now to change
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Good Luck and I hope to hear from you soon!